It’s deemed cool to be a porn star these days. People wear T shirts saying Porn Star across them. They film themselves having sex and upload it onto YouTube. People who only ever did one dodgy amateur movie years ago call themselves porn stars. Everyone wants to be someone whether it’s a model or musician or sports personality or film star or just an “it” girl. A celebrity of some sort. We all have our own little MySpace pages cos it makes us feel abit famous being where everyone in the world can view us.
I can’t speak for the other industries I mention but I can’t help thinking they are probably as unforgiving as porn too. Its just there jobs aren’t such a head fuck in the first place. It’s simply the baggage that goes with the job that is the down side for them.
Just look at Britney. What the fuck is that all about. She’s an extreme case but I’m sure others just manage to hide it better.
Britney is the reality of how many porn stars will end up though.
Britney is the reality of how many porn stars will end up though.
Who wants that??? We all think these people we put on pedestals have it all. Money, hot chicks or guys, fame, bling, cars. Then we feel sorry for them when the press hounds them and makes there life a living hell. These supposedly glamorous jobs all have flip sides. It’s all blown out of proportion. Even when we do witness the flip side we still want to be that person. We still think all the money and fame must be worth it.
It’s not. Were just glutton for punishment (the idolized). Were as taken in by it all as you “normal” people are. In fact we believe it even more.This is why Britney freaked out. I really think most of these people that “normal” people aspire to deal with their fame in damaging ways. Tom cruise has his weird faith. Some people turn to drugs and a party lifestyle. Just look at Whako Jacko.
I was sitting in a bar yesterday and watching the waitress. I aspire to her. She’s so cool. She has a good life probably. Not all the dramas and brain damage that go with these fake and fantasy jobs and personalities. She is truly deserving and worthy.
And all the other people in “normal” life. The postman, the check out girl, the bank clerk. I’d like to be one of them. I really admire the people who do the stuff that counts and makes a difference. It’s the real people who should be celebrated not the celebrities.
And all the other people in “normal” life. The postman, the check out girl, the bank clerk. I’d like to be one of them. I really admire the people who do the stuff that counts and makes a difference. It’s the real people who should be celebrated not the celebrities.
Imagine Heat magazine picking flaws in the average girl’s wardrobe of choice or Hello being filled with articles and pictures about how big Dave down the road got married to Sue from the pub.
Like Alice through the looking glass. Life is twisted.
1 comment:
It's worth seeing the film 'The Wrestler' because on one level it's about performed identities. This isn't an original observation, but Mickey Rourke's character has become the invented persona of 'Randy The Ram' and there is no residual or 'real' person there. On the other hand Marisa Tomei's character Cassidy who is a stripper draws and maintains the line between 'this is who I am and this is what I do'.
'Cassidy' is a performed identity who only exists inside the strip club. Outside the club there is a different identity and a much greater sense of self.
People create personas and alter egos for different reasons. It may be that they're dissatisfied with or don't like who they are and invent a more successful and aspirational self, or it may be about practicalities and 'masks for tasks' which certainly applies to porn.
If the line becomes blurred or disappears then generally I think there's great potential for trouble of the psychological variety. One aspect of social networking profiles etc is that they can serve to nourish and reinforce the invented persona.
It's down to the individual really - some may find that dabbling with a persona is fun, empowering and positive. Some may be in control, others may be controlled by the fantasy. One has to bear in mind too, I think, that if people are doing this at an age at which they're developmentally immature their brains could be said to be more receptive and malleable.
It's neither a good thing nor a bad thing. It will be positive for some but somewhat unhelpful and damaging to others.
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